huuuuulloooo! 🌼🌼🌼

the other day, i made a poll asking whether other people's high expectations of them burden them or make them fired up and i forgot to screenshot the results but i did keep track of it and about 60% voted that it burdens them.

i didn't really expect that much votes tbh. the remaining percentage voted that it motivated them to become better and there were 2 people who dm'ed me saying that sometimes they feel like it burdens them and sometimes vice versa.

for me, i do admit that high expectations do give a lot of weight on my shoulders. but sometimes i don't really mind it. why? i'm not so sure myself. it's as if i casually turn it into something that will help me mould myself to become better.

i am aware that everyone's situations are different compared to other people. i've seen people who struggle so hard because they want to keep the family legacy of getting outstanding marks and i've seen people who works their butts off, get a good mark but still, people around them expected higher and ask questions like 'why didnt you get this?' or 'a little bit more and you could've gotten this.' like, people?! where's your empathy?!

i think it doesn't matter who, parents, teachers, friends, should appreciate how hard people work to get where they are at right now, and i am sad that some of these people doesn't get the proper recognition or the reaction they deserve by their loved ones.

humans, right? we can't change them unless they change themselves.

for now, i hope the people who are struggling right now to never lose hope, no matter what. and no matter what people say, i hope they are still strong to keep standing on their feet and fight through the battle to reach their dreams. i've seen so much passion in some people, i can just root for them from afar sometimes. if they can, i hope they can turn the motivations into something positive instead of looking at it negatively. i know it's hard. i understand so much but what can we do if the person doesn't change their situation and reaction? so the best we can do is only change our perspective. 😊

may Allah heal us all.